Codependence in people pleasers
When, during childhood, a caretaker is consistently unavailable or unable to meet our emotional needs, or when their needs are focused on at the expense of our own…
We internalize the message that our needs don’t matter.
We learn to be good, unproblematic, and self-sufficient; and to avoid displeasing, disappointing, or inconveniencing people.
We do this like our life depends on it, because that’s what our nervous system truly believes, until the point that we are burnt out and harming ourselves.
If this sounds like you, there’s nothing wrong with you. This is a perfectly natural response to growing up in an emotionally unsafe environment.
AND you don’t have to keep the codependent survival patterns that your brain defaulted to. You are the grown up now, and you have the power to create the safe, attentive, and loving relationships you always deserved ❤️🩹
If you’re not sure where to start, I break it down for you step-by-step in Unleash Your Inner Dragon: A Workbook for Recovering People Pleasers + Perfectionists! It includes 4 weeks of activities you can follow to change your habits, build your self-esteem, and re-wire your brain so that it works better for you.