Feelings and needs

Everything you do is an attempt to meet a need. When our needs are being met, it feels good. When they're not, our body uses emotions to motivate us to fulfill the need.

No matter how inconceivable it may be, there is always a positive intention behind every 'negative' emotion, 'bad' habit and coping mechanism you have. You are not broken -- your brain is working exactly as it should, doing the best it can with the knowledge + resources it has to meet your needs and feel good.

If you’re behaving in a way that’s not working for you or that you want to change, stop beating yourself up for a minute and get curious about what that behavior might be trying to accomplish… What needs is it trying to meet? How do you want to feel?

Feelings wheel

Needs wheel

These Feelings + Needs Wheels are included in the workbook I created for recovering people pleasers + perfectionists, along with 4 weeks worth of journal prompts, activities, guided meditations, and somatic exercises. 

If you’re ready to understand the hidden motivations behind your habits + coping mechanisms, offer yourself more grace + respect, and re-wire your brain to better honor your feelings + needs, I I invite you check it out!