16 Examples of perfectionism

What does it mean to be a perfectionist? Here are some examples of how it might show up in your life:

Health Perfectionism

  • Hyper-fixation on eating the ‘right’ foods

  • Over-exercising or refusing to rest when you’re injured, tired, menstruating, etc.

  • Constant impulse to tweak, fix, or improve your health

Moral perfectionism

  • Hyper-fixation on being a good person

  • Constant worry that you’re doing something ‘bad’ or ‘wrong’

  • Extreme guilt or shame when you make a mistake or do something wrong (even unknowingly)

Relational perfectionism

  • Prioritizing others’ needs to the detriment of your own

  • Extreme discomfort / avoidance around difficult conversations or asking for help

  • Masking your true self to fit in and please others

Work perfectionism

  • Anxiety around taking sick or vacation time (even when you really need it)

  • Extreme discomfort receiving criticism (even when delivered kindly + constructively)

  • Inability to fully acknowledge your assets + strengths

  • Avoiding anything you think you might be bad at (or anything less than excellent)

Spiritual Perfectionism

  • Constantly feeling like you’re not doing enough in your spiritual practice

  • Unrealistic standards for your connection with God / Spirit

  • Anxiety that God / Spirit / your guides are disappointed with you

Is this you? 🙋 I’ve experienced all of these at some point! Still do occasionally, but it’s gotten a lot better since learning to be kinder to myself.

Wanting to be a good person, wanting to be understood and treated kindly by others… that’s all super normal. But all this pressure + criticism you’re putting on yourself, hustling to live up to other people’s / society’s standards… it’s not helping you feel the sense of satisfaction + accomplishment + peace you so deeply crave.

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